The Problem With Pornography

Pornography is printed or visual material containing the explicit description or display of sexual organs or activity, intended to stimulate sexual excitement.

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Being addicted to pornography is to be in bondage.

Millions of people have become entranced by the allure of pornography. At first the habit may seem to be only harmless entertainment. But once the damaging effects of lust emerge, these people feel unable to break the habit and erase the memories.

Thankfully, God is able to redeem not only our souls, but even our desires. Christ did not die in order to eliminate sexual attractions; he offered his life to ransom our souls and to teach us how to love. To experience the fullness of his redemption and the freedom he wishes to give, we must begin by admitting our fault and seeking his help and forgiveness. To break free from pornography, a man must first choose to open his eyes to the harm that it causes. It damages children, wives, and the women in the porn industry, as well as the viewer.

Recent brain research has discovered that with each visual experience, we literally grow new brain. In fact, synapses between brain cells are either strengthened or pruned based upon how we choose to live. Therefore, a man can shape the way his brain views women based upon what he places before his eyes. Through pornography, a man learns to measure the value of a woman based upon how much lust he feels for her. He may try to convince himself that that isn’t a problem, but in reality his ability to love is being crippled by it. Without realizing it, he comes to view the world through porn goggles, and assumes that constant lust is natural. When he eventually tries to love a woman, he’ll find himself confused and disappointed.

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One reason for this is that pornography trains a person to get bored with commitment. No matter how perfect a model might be, the man hooked on porn will leave her within a matter of seconds in order to view other women. Without realizing it, he is robbing himself of the ability to be captivated by a woman. If the most seductive supermodels fail to hold his interest for more than a few seconds, how long will his bride keep his attention? He has made himself into a glutton who is never filled.

Not surprisingly, research on people who looked at porn found that they were less likely to be satisfied with their partner’s affection, physical appearance, sexual curiosity, and sexual performance. Their behavior has led them away from what they were seeking in the first place. In the words of one husband, “The best way to ruin pleasure is to make it your goal.”

The man who views pornography experiences a deadness inside, yet he returns again and again to what only leaves him feeling emptier than before. One recovering porn addict admitted that viewing pornography “brings intense disappointment, precisely because it is not what I’m really searching for. It’s like a hungry person standing outside the window of a restaurant thinking that they’re going to get fed.” If God has created us to love as he loves, it is no wonder that those who view porn are never satisfied.

The fact that strip clubs refer to themselves as “adult” entertainment and “gentlemen’s” clubs proves that no matter how far we fall, we still feel a need to identify with authentic manhood. God has stamped into us the call to love in a noble and sacrificial way, as well as the desire to behold what is beautiful. However, when these God-given desires are warped through porn, we miss the point of why God made us men. Instead of dying to ourselves for the sake of women, we sacrifice them on the altar of lust.

When a husband is hooked on pornography, he’s only a shadow of the man his wife and children need him to be. His ability to be the spiritual leader of his family is stripped away from him. For lack of a better description, his addiction could be considered a spiritual vasectomy. Until his heart is changed, his ability to transmit the spiritual life is gone. Likewise, so long as a single man is trapped in the habit of porn, he could miss the vocation to which God is calling him.

Saint Alphonsus Liguori once noted that “When a raven finds a dead body, its first act is to pluck out the eyes, and the first injury that [impurity] inflicts on the soul is to take away the light of the things of God.” It is not surprising, then, that so many men wander away from the Church when they begin to fall prey to sexual sins, which blind us to spiritual realities. Some of these men may still attend Mass, yet they cannot escape the shame of living a double life.

When one’s fantasy life is revealed, the damage becomes impossible to ignore. upon discovering her father’s online porn collection, one young girl stormed away from him, saying, “I thought you were a better man than that.” Another teenage daughter said, “I found out my dad looks at porn. I used to look up to him. Now I can’t even look at him.”

Although these things are not easy to read, there is hope. No matter how deep the wounds or severe the addiction, God is capable of healing anyone who comes to him with a sincere heart.

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